BE AN INSPIRATION!

We remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ.

1 Thessalonians 1:3  (NIV)

Every year for the last 20 years, the Brain Injury Alliance of Kentucky (BIAK) has hosted a big gala and fundraiser called the Brain Ball. I have the honor each year of presenting the Mary Varga Award to another brain injury survivor who has reached out beyond the challenges of their particular brain injury to help others.

Why in the world did they name the award after me? MY brain injury inspired my family to create a fundraising party to benefit others in Kentucky living with the same (or similar) challenges that I live with.

This year’s winner, Maddie became an Occupational Therapy Assistant to show her own patients how to perform the daily activities necessary for living a normal life. Boy can she speak to her patients on a personal level…from living with her own challenges … and showing them the best ways to cope with theirs!

God has given us ALL the ability to inspire others. They watch us as we try to navigate our life WITH our particular challenge. If we do so in a positive way, it can inspire others to be a better version of themselves.

We usually inspire others when we’re trying to do something difficult or unnatural for us. What if things don’t turn out the way we hoped? What if we REALLY tried and we still couldn’t do it? We need to remember to react with a smile on our face. Complainers can’t move others to look on the bright side or inspire others to be more like them.

When I googled inspirational people…it told me they are those who can set a goal and do everything in their power to achieve it. I believe that inspiring others is more than just goal setting. What if we can’t do it? I think our inspiring comes from our ability to make others want to try too! We let them see the value in what we’re attempting to do.

And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.

1 Peter 5:10  (NIV)

How can we provoke a desire in others to take action and do something that they may have previously thought was bigger than them? We can do this by caring about others and challenging them to do their best. Show enthusiasm! Who doesn’t want to do more when they see the positive influence they have on others?

Most importantly, remember our opening Bible verse and where that inspiration comes from…

We remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ.

1 Thessalonions 1:3  (NIV)

 

God wants us all to be the best version of ourselves. He also wants to have us lead others to Him by our example…by our own efforts. So let’s be our very best while we inspire others to do the same!

 

Dear Lord,

May we always remember that we have the ability to inspire others or even turn them off by our own daily actions and outlook. May we always put our best foot forward regardless of our mood or circumstances.

Help us to lead others to You as they watch us navigate our lives.

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WHAT’S THE PLAN?

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

Jeremiah 29 (11-13) NIV

We make plans for everything in our life. Life literally revolves around the plans we make…from the time we wake up in the morning. We plan how (or if) we’ll nourish our body, what we’ll wear to work, what time we need to leave to be on time, and how we’ll get there. Those are just a few of the plans we make every day in the first hour after we rise.

I’m single, so I just need to make those plans for one person. If we’re married with children at home, then our schedule needs to coordinate with one or more other sets of plans. I grew up in a family of six children. God bless my mother! I don’t know how she did it.

After we take care of our daily plans, we can move on to plans that will achieve our goals and dreams for our future and our family’s future. That’s the time to remember that God’s WILL for our life trumps any specific plan we may have.

We can make the most educated preparations. We can use our common sense and listen to the advice of family and friends. However, we’d be well-advised to take it to the One who loves us most of all.

 

May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance.

2 Thessalonians 3:5  (NIV)

 

Following God’s plan for our life is the way to ensure it will be successful. Make a habit of asking before every decision…”Is this what the Lord would want me to do?” Then follow that plan! Still no clear answer? Then keep asking until your heart feels God’s approval of the plan. He’ll honor the fact that we consulted Him…even if our plan is a little off base. Just keep the communication line open!

Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.  The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.

Matthew 7:24-25 (NIV)

 We shouldn’t just pray for the Lord to change our circumstances…our problems and challenges. Let’s pray that God will change US to make us better equipped to navigate our challenges. We could all benefit from an instant miracle. Perhaps the Lord is showing us a way to live an extraordinary life despite our circumstances.

Let’s lean into the Lord as we try to determine His plans for our life. His plan is usually not immediate, but slow, resolute and determined. It will require faith and trust on our part.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

Believe that God has a specific plan for our life. That will always include assisting others on their life journey…and that’s what makes the journey so rewarding!

 

Dear Lord,

 Remind us to check in with You on all of our plans and goals. We know that You have an incredible plan for us to bring Your love to others, while still accomplishing our goals and dreams.

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ANGEL KISSES

For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways;
 they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.

Psalm 91: 11-12  (NIV)

 

Ever wonder how God can be so many places at one time? Yes, He is our glorious Creator who can accomplish all things. He is not limited by time or space. Yet He also comes with a whole army of angelic employees.

Angels are NOT human beings, although they can work through them. They are supernatural spiritual beings continuously praising God and working on his behalf with all living creatures. The angelic job description has but two responsibilities: Glorifying God and assisting with His mission. That’s why we refer to them as ministering spirits!

Are not all angels ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation?

Hebrews 1:14 (NIV)

 

Are we not the ones who will inherit salvation?  We sure hope to! That means the angels are here to serve, safeguard and minister to us just like they did Jesus! Ever had a coincidence happen that kept you out of harms way? I believe angels step in to protect us in those times.

Because of my poor balance, I am programmed to be concerned about my safety and easy mobility. I’m in the habit of just praying a silent “Thank You God!’ when circumstances line up to either keep me from harm or make life easier for me to navigate. I have to admit that I’ve never called on angels to help me. Perhaps it’s time to start! Couldn’t we all use some more power in our spiritual life?

 

I am a member (parishioner) of St. Raphael the Archangel Catholic church. A few weeks ago we celebrated the feast of the Archangels in our liturgy. The Catholic church recognizes 3 of the Archangels: Michael, Gabriel, and Raphael.

 Raphael is the archangel who oversees healing. His duties include providing healing and comfort to the sick and their caregivers and also for protecting travelers.

So I’m going to start calling out to St. Raphael as God’s anointed helper to assist me as I try to be of service to able bodies…even in my disabled world. Balance is not necessary to serve others OR our heavenly father. Maybe St. Raphael can reveal opportunities for me to do that while helping me with my balance at the same time!

In Catholic doctrine it says that God himself revealed to Raphael the Archangel a mandate to cure the bodily, mental and spiritual afflictions of all living creatures. Archangels are the chief angels of the heavenly realm and very powerful! I’ve always felt that God was with me. It’s encouraging to know that archangel of healing also has my back!

Gabriel is the archangel in charge of communicating important messages to people. He is the messenger of new beginnings. He spoke to Zechariah of his wife, Elizabeth giving birth to John the Baptist.

The angel said to him, “I am Gabriel. I stand in the presence of God, and I have been sent to speak to you and to tell you this good news.

Luke 1:19  (NIV)

 

Gabriel later spoke to Mary herself about conceiving (through the Holy Spirit) Jesus, the messiah and savior of our world.

Michael is the archangel in charge of our protection…mostly from evil in the spiritual realm.

Those are just the archangels. Angels are everywhere…here to guide and protect us.

Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.

Hebrews 13:2 (NIV)

 

How has “LIFE” happened to you? We can use all the help we can get. While we’re praying to our Lord…let’s also ask for assistance from His angels.

 

Dear Lord,

Thank You for sending Your angels to watch over and intervene for us. You’ve given us a whole heavenly realm to guide us and protect us. Help us to remember to ASK for their help, just like we need to ASK for Yours.

HEADS UP

The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!”

1 Corinthians 12:21  (NIV)

 

It’s time for another fitness blog. Just as the opening scripture tells us, we can’t tell one body part it’s more or less useful than the other parts. Everything must work together to make the whole body function as it’s supposed to.

In a previous blog post, https://mvarga.com/fitness-wellness/tuck-your-tail/, I spoke of our HIPS (and ankles!) being the most important element in proper balance and stability. Important…yes…but it must work together with our head and shoulders to MAINTAIN that balance.

I give my classes constant cues to keep their heads and shoulders where they should be during movements…and when standing still! I know I sound like a broken record! I do it as much for me as I do it for them!

Make a long neck… chin and nose forward… nostrils up.

Ears pulled back over the shoulders… Pull your chin into your throat…Make a double chin. (Those last two cues came straight from my physical therapist, Denny.) 

When I was in grade school, my best pal and neighbor, Mary Ann, used to teasingly call me WingWong because my eyes were so small that when I smiled, I looked almost oriental. Gravity has taken its’ toll in the last 50 years. I no longer look like WingWong when I smile, but I keep her picture in my living room to remind me to keep a long neck…even when just sitting to watch TV.

I have to admit, I’m a tad neurotic about holding my body in the right posture. That includes my head. Some people have visual memories. Others are auditory. As a fitness instructor, I also know about muscle memory.

When it comes to my head, I have a ‘feeling’ memory. I try to imagine someone behind me…holding my neck in a strangle hold. They have their hands under my jaw. That will get the head up fast!

The mental image that causes me to hold my head up properly the most is imagining a book balanced on my head. I’ve tried doing that more than once. It’s harder than it looks! It’s impossible to balance the book if leaning forward, sideways or back.

Even though it’s difficult to actually do…IMAGINING a book balanced on the head will get us holding our head properly…even if it’s just a little off. 

When we try to balance a book on our head, immediately our ears pull back over our shoulders and our neck naturally gets longer.

So just like the opening scripture verse alludes, our body parts were not meant to work individually but together as a whole for the benefit of the whole body…in this case, to keep our heads up taller!

 

Dear Lord,

Why is multi-tasking so challenging? It sure is easier to think (and do) just one thing at a time. But just like the rest of our lives, we need to learn to have all things working together for our good and the good of others.

Help us to hold our bodies in the right alignment so we can walk without tripping and hold our heads up high….SIMULTANEOUSLY!

 

Yay!!! 

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FRUIT OF CHOICE

I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

John 15:5  (NIV)

When we want to discover what another is truly like,…we look at their commitments, their actions…and we listen to their words! We’re looking at the FRUIT of their life. What kind of fruit are we bearing?

Our fruit is many times a byproduct of things that have happened in our life. Have we had a perfect, unspotted life? Most would say a resounding “NO!”

We’ve all faced challenges…been treated unfairly…not had life turn out as we wanted. It’s simply the Human experience.

It’s also the result of how we were raised. If we grew up in a home that emphasized hard work to attain goals…we will be hard workers. If truth and honesty have been instilled in us, we will act in truth and be honest with others. If others have shown compassion for our plight, we will also hopefully show mercy to others. However, upbringing is not always a sure sign of fruit in our lives.

He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.

Micah 6:8  (NIV)

Are we following God’s requirement for our life? Do we treat others as we’ve like to be treated? If God is always placed in the center of our lives, we will instinctively look to Him for guidance as we make our decisions.

This is always the hardest of God’s commandments for me to follow! I want to do things myself! If I’m not hurting anyone or doing something illegal what’s the big deal?

Are we bearing any fruit by our actions? It’s for God’s glory that we do so. If we dwell only on what will be good and beneficial for us, we’ve sort of missed the point. We’re supposed to be living our lives for God…not men. So I guess doing things only for myself IS a big deal to God.

Of course we want our families to be happy and well-cared for…but so does God. We have to ask Him to show us how He wants us to spend our days. Especially in difficult times, our trust needs to be in God first! We need to EXPECT Him to answer our prayers. It may come in ways we don’t expect, but it WILL come.

Those who put their trust in God…

They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green.
It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.

Jeremiah 17:8 (NIV)

 

Our fruit will show up in what kind of character our children display, how we treat others, the impression we leave with our clients and associates and most importantly,…how we honor our heavenly Father. Honoring God will be manifest in how we respond to whatever life is handing us.

Are we kind and gracious only when life is going our way? How do we respond when life isn’t going as we planned? Our real character seems to show up not in good times…but in how we handle interruptions, setbacks and difficulty. This is when the fruit of God the Holy Spirit is most evidenced in our lives.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

Galations 5:22 (NIV)

Talent, success, intelligence, attractiveness and lots of influence are the fruits our world seems to prefer. They are indeed fruits! Is that how we want to be remembered though? What about kindness, compassion, generosity, humility and service? If we add ‘self-control’ we have the fruits of the Holy Spirit.

Let’s ask the Holy Spirit to guide us towards what God desires for our lives. The Holy Spirit gives us the power to DESIRE new things in our life. Our job is simply to cooperate with Him in our thinking to accomplish His plans.

Then we will be showing God’s fruit of choice.

Dear Lord,

Help us to mold our character and accomplishments to be a reflection of You. We want our fruit to reveal that we are your children.

Give us the desire to produce fruit that pleases both You…and others.

 

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BE A PALM TREE

The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish in the courts of our God.

Psalm 92: 12-13 (NIV)

 

When life starts to go south, or things aren’t happening as we anticipated…we could all take a lesson from the PALM TREE. Just like the mighty oak or cedar tree, the palm tree has roots that grow deep into the ground. During hurricanes though, the palm tree will actually strengthen its roots while the branches are bent over to withstand the forces of the wind.

Just like the palm tree, we need to learn how to bounce back when circumstances aren’t going as we expected. Remember that the rain will fall on the just and the unjust. We all need to learn how to bend when it’s necessary to seize the right outcome, because God also promises…

He will also send you rain for the seed your sow in the ground, and the food that comes from the land will be rich and plentiful. In that day your cattle will graze in broad meadows.

Isaiah 30:23 (NIV)

So what can we do in our bent-over position to ensure that we will receive rain and plentiful seed? Hurricane forces are not what we envisioned when we prayed for nourishing rain. Why are God’s ways often times different from our own?

Sometimes we just need to think outside the box. We’ve already concluded that this would be advantageous for us. Will it do anything to help others with their mission? The Lord wants us to work together to fulfill His plans for us here on earth.

Sometimes I need to continuously remind myself it’s NOT ALL ABOUT ME! Others’ dreams and plans are just as valuable and important as mine. Dare I try to learn some new truth from their plans? Might God’s plan be to bring nourishment to all of us?

Here is a personal example of how this played out in my life…

After my traumatic brain injury in 1997, I wanted so much to be a person that could offer help to others. I needed to feel like my life was still of some use.

At one time, I was a aerobic dance instructor. Now I had years of prompts from my physical therapists to get my muscles and joints moving correctly. Could I possibly put those skills together to assist others in their fitness routine?

God gave me the perfect cliental with seniors who needed to keep their muscles working at optimal levels. It seems they needed to be doing the same exercises I need to do to regain my strength and mobility. So now I’m able to use my fitness training and my physical therapy instruction AND combine it with some fun music to make it feel like one continuous dance routine. We all have fun and we ALL benefit from the aerobic dance routine!

So just like a palm tree, from my bent-over position I’m still able to offer assistance to others by demonstrating how they can keep their bodies strong, supple and stable. I lost my natural stability with my brain injury, but by simply touching the arm of a chair for balance, I’m able to show others how to hang onto their own stability.

Is there something that has you bent-over in life? This is where prayer becomes indispensible! I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) to run things by God first, BEFORE taking any action.

Is there some way we can use our circumstances to help others? That will leave us feeling pretty darn good about ourselves! Take a lesson from the palm tree.

Then when we get to the place that we’re standing tall again, we can give all the glory to God.

 

Dear Lord,

You always knew we would face obstacles and challenges in life. You’ve also put in each of us the desire to turn those lemons into lemonade. It’s how You made us!

Thank You for the lesson of the palm tree. Help us to always remember that You can work best in us from a bent-over position.

 

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Leaving the Nest

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the desert.

Isaiah 43:19 (NIV)

 

College-bound students are starting their fall semester. This is a good time for me to start blogging again. I’ve missed writing to you these last few weeks.

I have a niece and 2 nephews beginning their college adventure. Their parents have been preparing their children for this day since they were infants. As they head off to universities in the south and Midwest, mom and dad are praying they retain what they have taught them about how to navigate life… personal safety, nutrition, cleanliness, kindness, personal responsibility AND good study habits!

Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)

This is a striking example of what we refer to as “leaving the nest”. Will all the years of love, discipline and training transfer over to life on their own? The students are elated to finally be making daily decisions for themselves. With that elation comes a little fear of whether or not they can do it.

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.

1 Corinthians 13:11 (NIV)

 

I’ve had some personal experience with nest as mama birds love to build them over my terrace door. They are very diligent in their nest building. It goes very quickly. Once the nest is built, mama sits on her eggs until they hatch. Then she brings worms to nourish her little ones.

As they begin to grow, the mama bird begins to take away the padding that protected and kept them safe. The baby birds learn that their claws will allow them to stand on the once-padded floor of the nest. As their wings begin to grow, the baby birds discover if they flap them, they can go up and down in the nest. This process can take several weeks. Eventually they are confident enough to fly away from the nest. Then I can finally clean my terrace!

Just like baby birds (and college students) God wants us all to grow into the best version of ourselves. That means growing SPIRITUALLY.

In his world-renown book, The Purpose Drive Life, pastor, author, and teacher, Rick Warren tells us “Your heavenly Father’s goal is for you to mature and develop the characteristics of Jesus Christ.”

That’s a tall order! That means we have to stop thinking like baby birds and start thinking like mature Christians.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Philippians 4:8 (NIV)

This will often take a real heart transformation. It will take a change in the way we think about life and what’s important to us. It will take a change in how we think about ourselves and others.

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

 Proverbs 4:23 ( NIV)

We can’t change the way we think overnight! We’ve been taught to think in certain ways since we were born. Even our Christian values were at some point learning something new. We need to surround ourselves with others whose values we want to emulate. That’s what parents are hoping their children will do as they head off to college.

The very heart of Christianity is thinking of others’ needs instead of our own. That’s what Jesus did. Can we do that? This is a constant challenge for me.

I’m afraid my TBI and subsequent balance difficulty gives me a baby bird outlook in some situations. Is this safe? Can I do this on my own? Do I need to have someone help me AGAIN?

Then I try to remember that others LIKE to feel helpful. Doesn’t it make them feel needed? God wants us to live in harmony with others as one big family.

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.

Philippians 2:5 (NIV)

Are we in a safe, comfy nest that we need to break out of to be all that God wants us to be? Just like going to college, it may be scary.

Just remember our opening scripture:

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?

 

Dear Lord,

Why does change need to be so scary? Help us remember that You are on the journey with us. And You want Your best for us.

Help us let go of what is no longer necessary as we lean into You.

 

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A BETTER VERSION

‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.

Revelation 21:4  (NIV)

 

My son Andrew and I were having a ‘heavy’ conversation one day about life and death. I told him I believed we would all receive glorified bodies in heaven, and mine was going to have the balance/agility of an Olympic figure skater. Andrew then said, ‘Now let me get this straight. You want to be a figure skater when you get to heaven?’ I explained that I wanted the balance and agility that figure skaters show. His response was, ‘But think about it Mom. If you already have a glorified body…wouldn’t it be cool to be able to do a Triple Axel?’

I do believe we will have glorified bodies in eternity. Like the opening scripture promises, suffering will be no more!

We don’t have to wait for eternity to become a better version of ourselves though. We can start right now!

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,

Colossians 3:23  (NIV)

We can use the mundane, boring or even irritating things in life to bring glory to God. Life is not a continuous ‘mountain top’ moment. We need to show excellence in the everyday routines and hassles that bombard us.

We can show excellence and integrity anytime things don’t go as we had hoped or planned. We can show patience when dealing with traffic, long lines, unexpected delays. We can show compassion and understanding when others aren’t behaving as we want them to. Don’t we expect the same from them?

 Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Galations 6:2  (NIV)

God smiles when He sees us showing kindness and patience with each other. He’s elated when He sees us step up to assist another soul on their journey. When we pray for God’s help, remember that He will usually use others to show us how we should go. Let’s let God use us as part of His plan for others!

When we do these things, we’re becoming a better version of ourselves. We are all a part of God’s family…regardless of our profession, political affiliation, talents or life experience. Let’s use our own life experience to help others become a better version of themselves.

Others will remember how we showed our care and concern for them. Did we notice them and their actions? Give them a thumbs up? Give them a hand? Encourage them? Others won’t generally remember all of our accomplishments. They WILL remember how we treated them…. how we made them feel about their life.

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

John 13:34  (NIV)

When we reach the pearly gates, God’s not going to ask us about our talents or intelligence. He’ll want to know how we made others feel about themselves. He’ll ask us how we brought Him glory.

We’ll have to wait until eternity to receive our glorified bodies. We can start right now working on our glorified spirit… using our plain old human body and mind!

 

Dear Lord,

Someday we will all stand before You. Suffering and pain will be no more! We’ve all spent a long life working hard and overcoming obstacles.

Remind us that ‘no pain’ does not mean we won’t be working in eternity. We’ll be using our God-given talents to accomplish things for You. We won’t be working alone either! All of us will have the same mission of bringing You continuous glory.

 

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HAVING A BAD FACE DAY!

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

Romans 12:12  (NIV)

In this blog post, I’m going describe the lessons God showed me in the middle of a mini trauma I experienced a couple of weeks ago. He has shown up countless times in the 25 years since I had my traumatic brain injury. I see Him in the faces and hands of family, friends and total strangers who step up to help me. So you might say I was kind of expecting it.

Lesson 1: Life is fragile. It can change without warning.

After my TBI, I of all people should know this. Perhaps the Lord was giving me a little reminder.

I rode my bike over to my hair stylist for a cut one morning. My balance will not allow me to ride a regular bicycle, so I ride an adult-size tricycle (trike). I was being extra-careful as I exited the shopping center because of uneven pavement. I wasn’t pedaling, but slowly gliding over the uneven terrain. When my wheels rolled over it, down I went!

 My bike is very stable, so when it falls over on its side, it does it in slow motion. I hit with my helmet first…then rolled to my unprotected face. Ouch! My lack of balance would not allow me to correct the falling bike. I sat there for a minute trying to regroup.

Lesson 2: Despite the evil in our world, others want to be kind and helpful.

A kind lady who was just parking her car asked if she could help me up. We got me…and the bike up. As I pedaled the mile ½ home, I could feel that I had scraped my face, but hadn’t seen it yet.

 

Lesson 3: Lean on loved ones who’ve been there for you throughout life.

I didn’t think it looked too bad, but immediately sent a text picture to John…my brother and primary care doctor. He told me to clean my face with alcohol, Neosporin the scrape on my eye and keep ice on my face for 24 hours. He also told me it would get worse before it got better. Boy, he was not kidding!

I inundated John, my sister Julie and my son Andrew with text pictures as the swelling & bruising continued. I won’t disturb you with the images! After waking from a nap, I caught an image of my face in the mirror. I freaked out! Please Lord! Help me find the good You’re showing me in this!

 I wished my mom was still alive to tell me how terrible my face looked and listen to the whole sordid story. Instead my dad called to hear the same story. Sometimes that’s all we need to feel better is someone to listen to us!

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Lesson 4: Do not be afraid to live your life.

Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you; don’t be dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you; yes, I will help you; yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness.

Isaiah 41:10

I love riding my bike to my hair stylist through all the picturesque upper Highlands neighborhoods. My first thought was “Better call Uber from now on.” When I was calmer, I decided to keep riding my bike, but get off and walk it over the uneven pavement. I could hold onto the bike like a rolling walker. Now that was something I was used to!

My hair Stylist swears by Arnaca cream, a topical pain reliever to stop bruising. It was drizzling outside and I was scared to get back on the bike again…but improving the appearance of my face took precedence over my fear. So I rode up to the health food store with my mind repeating “Do not be afraid, for I am with you” over and over again. So my journey was most surely covered in prayer!

 

Lesson 5: Lean into God. He will show you what to do.

I cancelled my early morning class for fear of what my face would look like. My brother Andrew encouraged me NOT to cancel my afternoon class if I truly did feel as fine as I said I did. “Who cares what your face looks like? Show them how courageous you are!” I felt so much better after the class workout! And no one was put off by how my face looked. I was able to make their muscles burn, bruises, or no bruises!

I’m so glad I didn’t cancel the class. I was reminded again of how much I love coaching others. I forgot all about my face while teaching!

Lesson 6: Always find the humor in tough situations.

I received a text from my sister Julie asking for a picture of my improvement three days after my mishap. I sent her what I thought was pretty good evidence of my improvement. Her return text read…Still looks pretty brutal…and painful! I replied that I had no pain at all unless I pushed on it. Her reply was…

Cut me Mick! Cut me!  

I immediately thought…If Rocky Balboa could endure the swelling, then so can I!

 

Lesson 7:  Especially in affliction, you are never alone.

I’ve been able to live on my own for over 10 years now. My days are active enough that I really enjoy the quiet when I get home. On holidays and special occasions I feel driven to be with others though. This was one of those special occasions!

Once I got over the initial trauma of my bike spill, I just felt lonely and stupid for letting it happen in the first place. I knew uneven pavement was dangerous, but I did it anyway!

Ever since my TBI though, I’ve never felt truly alone. I feel like Jesus is right there with me all the time. Sometimes I can actually feel Him.

That’s the comfort I think we can all hang onto when we go through hard times. So next time we have a ‘bad face day’, cling to the One who will listen compassionately and help us to learn and keep moving forward.

The Lord DID bring something good out of my affliction. He gave me a new topic for my blog! 

 

Dear Lord,

Life happens to all of us…. The good AND the bad!

Sometimes we have to learn the lessons the hard way. You sure had me leaning into You during this ‘mini trauma’. Please remind us to do that especially during our difficult times.

Instead of focusing only on the current challenge, help us to see the lessons You’re trying to teach us through them.

Thank You for reminding us that You always love us…sometimes in spite of what’s happening in our life.

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REBOOT

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

Isaiah 43:18-19  (NIV)

I’m going to stay with the cyber theme that I used in my last blog post.  https://mvarga.com/life-inspiration/let-go-of-the-mouse/ Many times when our computer starts behaving in ways we can’t understand. “Why won’t it do what I’m asking? This is how I’ve always done it!” Many times we just need to reboot to get everything working properly again. Time to hit the restart button.

Our lives end up like that occasionally. We need a reset to get everything back on track. Are we spending all of our time and energy on an issue we can’t resolve ourselves? Are we racking our brain for a solution to a problem that’s beyond our control?

We do have a heavenly Father who loves us and wants the best for our life. Why not start with Him first? Ask Him for a reset in our career..our relationship..our body..our confidence..our mindset. It’s okay to ask. Just be sure to let go of the mouse as we wait for His direction.

He may be leading us to a different AND better way of doing things. We shouldn’t get stuck in the way we’ve ALWAYS done it!

 

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Romans 12:2  ( NIV)

Remember, it’s His perfect will…not ours. It’s also His perfect timing…not right now please!

We spend most of our lives waiting for something. We wait daily for traffic signals, cooking times, dinner reservations, friends to arrive… We relinquish our control of the timing, or it can drive us batty!

But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.

Romans 8:25  (NIV)

We also wait for finances to change, relationships to change, circumstances to change. In order for those changes to happen, sometimes we need to reboot. We need to look at our situation with new eyes.

Just like a computer reboot, we need to approach our situation with a different outlook. What can we personally change to get the outcome we’re hoping for? Has our life become so routine that we don’t even look for ways to improve it?

In my blog post about being uncomfortable, https://mvarga.com/lifeinspiration/uncomfortable/ I talk about all change being uncomfortable, but also the only way to actually grow. We need to step outside of our comfort zone to see what the Lord has in store for us.

Commit to the Lord whatever you do,
    
and he will establish your plans.

Proverbs 16:3  (NIV)

 

Like everything that happens in our life, take it first to God in prayer. Maybe He wants to show us a different way we haven’t tried before. Or perhaps He’s just telling us to wait with hope and with our eyes on Him!

Many times that calls for a change in our perspective…a REBOOT!

 

Dear Lord,

We are all creatures of habit. Sometimes the way we do things isn’t working anymore. Give us the wisdom to look for ways we could change our routine (and thinking).

 Just because life isn’t happening to our specific needs and desires DOESN’T mean it’s no longer doing as it’s supposed to.

Give us the courage to try different ways to arrive at our designated finish line.

 

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